Dear Diary,
In a few hours my son will be one already!For my daughter I wanted her to talk fast, walk fast and just get indpendent real quick but with my son, i am so not in a hurry rather I am trying to savour every moment of this babyhood as i do not intend to go down this route again...
Tolulope completes my team and in no time, he will be a man,yet, forever, no matter how fast he grows or how independent he gets, he will always be my son...
So I was just thinking one time that since I'm a mom to two Tbabies , I reckon that Mummy Tiwa is not very apt for I am Mummy Tolu too *GRIN*
I therefore now wish to be called Tmommy!!!hehehe!!!!Cheers to mommyhood,now and forever!
Ps: Happy Birthday son!💋
Wednesday, April 4, 2018
Tuesday, August 15, 2017
Motherhood is only but a Priviledge.
Hmm, I shall endeavour to make this short so I don't end up sounding unappreciative of mothers in this piece.
Let me first reinterate that I love my mum alot especially since i became a wife and mom,my love for her increases daily....and i really want to do all I can to make her later years sweet.
Yet still, I do think that d concept of motherhood is a tad overated... especially in this part of the world...
Not a day passes when i tune in to Africa Magic Yoruba that i wont watch an overindulged mom or motherinlaw exceeding boundaries...i see mothers slaping their chest saying i am your mother so you must do this or that..Grrrr....hellooooo... why should a mother feel entititiled to her child's wealth,income or home.... worse still mums who seemingly abandoned their 'mommyduties' in the earlier years also lay claim to their children's sucesses just because they birth the child...as if the decision to birth a child is a selfless one...
In this part of the world, folks still have many children just so they have more 'care' options in the future and for many more selfish reasons!...oh common!..wake up people!
Should the parent/child relationship be trade by barter? As a matter of fact i do believe that it is mandatory for a parent to cater for a child and not necessarily the other way round! For goodness sake, it was your decision(oftentimes) to have a child! so you should take total responsibility and endure the possible pains and/or gains of raising a child...Am I saying that children shouldnt honour or take care of their parents ?No! I am just saying that it is healthier for you as a mother/ parent not to feel entitiled to it....If u manage to raise good children,they will do the needful fullstop!
If all mothers embrace motherhood as a 'privilege', as a 'trust',as a 'gift', as a 'grace' and not as a right or a rewarding job, perhaps we will have 'nicer' motheinlaws,daughters and sisters and of course a better world.....
Ps: Did I hear you say this is just a young momma's thoughts..*grin*....oh yes! let's see if it changes within the next 38 years...*wider grin*
Let me first reinterate that I love my mum alot especially since i became a wife and mom,my love for her increases daily....and i really want to do all I can to make her later years sweet.
Yet still, I do think that d concept of motherhood is a tad overated... especially in this part of the world...
Not a day passes when i tune in to Africa Magic Yoruba that i wont watch an overindulged mom or motherinlaw exceeding boundaries...i see mothers slaping their chest saying i am your mother so you must do this or that..Grrrr....hellooooo... why should a mother feel entititiled to her child's wealth,income or home.... worse still mums who seemingly abandoned their 'mommyduties' in the earlier years also lay claim to their children's sucesses just because they birth the child...as if the decision to birth a child is a selfless one...
In this part of the world, folks still have many children just so they have more 'care' options in the future and for many more selfish reasons!...oh common!..wake up people!
Should the parent/child relationship be trade by barter? As a matter of fact i do believe that it is mandatory for a parent to cater for a child and not necessarily the other way round! For goodness sake, it was your decision(oftentimes) to have a child! so you should take total responsibility and endure the possible pains and/or gains of raising a child...Am I saying that children shouldnt honour or take care of their parents ?No! I am just saying that it is healthier for you as a mother/ parent not to feel entitiled to it....If u manage to raise good children,they will do the needful fullstop!
If all mothers embrace motherhood as a 'privilege', as a 'trust',as a 'gift', as a 'grace' and not as a right or a rewarding job, perhaps we will have 'nicer' motheinlaws,daughters and sisters and of course a better world.....
Ps: Did I hear you say this is just a young momma's thoughts..*grin*....oh yes! let's see if it changes within the next 38 years...*wider grin*
Saturday, May 13, 2017
Letter to my 30 year old unmarried Sister
Dear Sister,
Today, I smile as I remember when I turned 30, the events that preceeded it and the events that followed... If you are any bit like me, you may have started consoling yourself with "truths" like: ^Marriage is not worth rushing into, ^Sex before Marriage is worth nothing, ^'Late' marriage is beneficial and so on. I must tell u they are true words so really believe them and not just take them as mere consolation points.
Permit me,my dear sister, to retrospectively share some more truths with you in this letter.
First, I know you know, but I want you to really know and believe that we all have different times and seasons. Though the orange and tomato seed be planted on the same day, they wont produce fruit on the same day thus comparing yourself with ANYBODY is pointless!
Second, I want you to know and really really believe scriptures especially Jeremiah 29 v 11. He indeed knows the plans He has for u and trust me, they are GOOD! Don't miss them by being wise in your own eyes. See Proverbs 3 v 5-6.
Third, Know that without a relationship with God, WAITING is never fun; be it waiting for a bus,admission,marriage,a child or whatever! Yet, Sometimes, the Lord wants us to wait in order that we learn patience and attain maturity required for the next phase. So, while you wait,Love the Lord,Serve him and Trust Him like never before. Isiah 26 v 3 says: He'll keep in perfect peace, he whoose mind is stayed on him. oh! how can I express the peace the Lord gives amidst a storm... I enjoyed this premarital peace at some point and I really wish you enjoy same!
Fourthly, Know that your folks do care. Some may not be as encouraging or as quiet as you desire but they do care. So even though they seemingly always remind you of your marital status, do comparisms and even insult you, don't take offence, just love them right back!☺😍
Finally, Do the needful! You cannot expect your spouse to find you when u are constantly indoors.Brighten up girl! Mix up, be friendly,be courteous, be humble,be kind... Attend empowering events,weddings, birthdays and church programmes. But, do so, not in a desperate attempt to finding a man but to gain knowledge, aerate and have fun! You can't afford to overdo any of these things.Do all in moderation. Behold, the honest truth is that good guys refrain from girls that are always at all parties and girls that are heavily madeup...
I can understand that you work round the clock and at weekends you only want to rest but hey! you just have to step out!
And of course you need to step out spiritually too, You need to step out of your spiritual comfort zone! if you have never fasted about your spouse before, u should do so,if u havent been at a vigil or gone to a moutain top to pray, try it, sow seeds for your marriage girl! Life is a battle and forces are real so sometimes you need to fight for your marriage. Generational curses, 'Ogun amubo' , Ogo de-emi pin, Spiritual husband etc are some things I learnt of when I stepped out of my spiritual comfort zone...Did I really believe that I had any of such issues? NO! Yet still, for whatever it was worth. I fought the fight against them.(I hope you can pray in tounges oh).
After all said and done, go on and enjoy your single life girl. As in,enjoy it whilst it lasts; 'cos girl! sometimes I miss being single! For instance, it's not so much fun being confined to the nursing mothers section and trying to console your crying baby when quality praise and worship is going on...smh..But hey! I'm not complaining oh! Rather, I am full of gratitude to God...See me na, after my 30th birthday I was 'dumped' LOL but today @ 35, I am HAPPILY married with TWO beautiful kids!
Indeed, I have tasted and know God's faithfulness in my marriage and I am confident that he is working out the best in other areas of my life too. Thats why the chorus of Ebenezer Obey's song, "Aimasiko" is my ringtone 😅😅. Pls lets sing it together as I end this 'epistle'.
"Hale hale o le hale mo mi rara
mo 'la'la feyinti mo l'Oluwa
Oro mi owo Oluwa lowa!" hehehe! You should learn the entire song if you dont know it already. Meanwhile, I bluetooth the dimension of marital grace and mercy I have enjoyed to you too dear. RECEIVE!
Today, I smile as I remember when I turned 30, the events that preceeded it and the events that followed... If you are any bit like me, you may have started consoling yourself with "truths" like: ^Marriage is not worth rushing into, ^Sex before Marriage is worth nothing, ^'Late' marriage is beneficial and so on. I must tell u they are true words so really believe them and not just take them as mere consolation points.
Permit me,my dear sister, to retrospectively share some more truths with you in this letter.
First, I know you know, but I want you to really know and believe that we all have different times and seasons. Though the orange and tomato seed be planted on the same day, they wont produce fruit on the same day thus comparing yourself with ANYBODY is pointless!
Second, I want you to know and really really believe scriptures especially Jeremiah 29 v 11. He indeed knows the plans He has for u and trust me, they are GOOD! Don't miss them by being wise in your own eyes. See Proverbs 3 v 5-6.
Third, Know that without a relationship with God, WAITING is never fun; be it waiting for a bus,admission,marriage,a child or whatever! Yet, Sometimes, the Lord wants us to wait in order that we learn patience and attain maturity required for the next phase. So, while you wait,Love the Lord,Serve him and Trust Him like never before. Isiah 26 v 3 says: He'll keep in perfect peace, he whoose mind is stayed on him. oh! how can I express the peace the Lord gives amidst a storm... I enjoyed this premarital peace at some point and I really wish you enjoy same!
Fourthly, Know that your folks do care. Some may not be as encouraging or as quiet as you desire but they do care. So even though they seemingly always remind you of your marital status, do comparisms and even insult you, don't take offence, just love them right back!☺😍
Finally, Do the needful! You cannot expect your spouse to find you when u are constantly indoors.Brighten up girl! Mix up, be friendly,be courteous, be humble,be kind... Attend empowering events,weddings, birthdays and church programmes. But, do so, not in a desperate attempt to finding a man but to gain knowledge, aerate and have fun! You can't afford to overdo any of these things.Do all in moderation. Behold, the honest truth is that good guys refrain from girls that are always at all parties and girls that are heavily madeup...
I can understand that you work round the clock and at weekends you only want to rest but hey! you just have to step out!
And of course you need to step out spiritually too, You need to step out of your spiritual comfort zone! if you have never fasted about your spouse before, u should do so,if u havent been at a vigil or gone to a moutain top to pray, try it, sow seeds for your marriage girl! Life is a battle and forces are real so sometimes you need to fight for your marriage. Generational curses, 'Ogun amubo' , Ogo de-emi pin, Spiritual husband etc are some things I learnt of when I stepped out of my spiritual comfort zone...Did I really believe that I had any of such issues? NO! Yet still, for whatever it was worth. I fought the fight against them.(I hope you can pray in tounges oh).
After all said and done, go on and enjoy your single life girl. As in,enjoy it whilst it lasts; 'cos girl! sometimes I miss being single! For instance, it's not so much fun being confined to the nursing mothers section and trying to console your crying baby when quality praise and worship is going on...smh..But hey! I'm not complaining oh! Rather, I am full of gratitude to God...See me na, after my 30th birthday I was 'dumped' LOL but today @ 35, I am HAPPILY married with TWO beautiful kids!
Indeed, I have tasted and know God's faithfulness in my marriage and I am confident that he is working out the best in other areas of my life too. Thats why the chorus of Ebenezer Obey's song, "Aimasiko" is my ringtone 😅😅. Pls lets sing it together as I end this 'epistle'.
"Hale hale o le hale mo mi rara
mo 'la'la feyinti mo l'Oluwa
Oro mi owo Oluwa lowa!" hehehe! You should learn the entire song if you dont know it already. Meanwhile, I bluetooth the dimension of marital grace and mercy I have enjoyed to you too dear. RECEIVE!
Wednesday, May 10, 2017
Thirty-Five & Thrilled!
I'm not sure that "thrilled" is the most apt word for how happy, fufilled and grateful I am as I clock 35 in 10days!
For once, the contemporary phrase "Birthday Loading..." makes sense to me because I am so excited about this birthday! As usual, I do not have plans for a party or anything special but for some reason i am just thrilled about my 35th birthday!
Flash back to my 30th birthday and the events that followed...who would have said that by 35, I will be HAPPILY MARRIED with TWO kids! Only God! Only Him knows the end from the beginning! Chai! I can only imagine how God in heaven would have felt whilst I worried...Indeed, His plans for us are good! Of a truth, though weeping endures all night, joy comes in the morning! Baba God, I thank you ohhh! Today, I look back and can confidently say to any mature single lady: "Trust God and Worry Not, The Lord makes all things beautiful in His Time"! I should post my learnings for Mature Single Ladies after this..
Meanwhile, let me bask gratefully and joyfully in the birthday euphoria! Indeed, I am thrilled!!! May the next thirty-five birthdays all bring same or more joy and fufillment than this! AMEN!
For once, the contemporary phrase "Birthday Loading..." makes sense to me because I am so excited about this birthday! As usual, I do not have plans for a party or anything special but for some reason i am just thrilled about my 35th birthday!
Flash back to my 30th birthday and the events that followed...who would have said that by 35, I will be HAPPILY MARRIED with TWO kids! Only God! Only Him knows the end from the beginning! Chai! I can only imagine how God in heaven would have felt whilst I worried...Indeed, His plans for us are good! Of a truth, though weeping endures all night, joy comes in the morning! Baba God, I thank you ohhh! Today, I look back and can confidently say to any mature single lady: "Trust God and Worry Not, The Lord makes all things beautiful in His Time"! I should post my learnings for Mature Single Ladies after this..
Meanwhile, let me bask gratefully and joyfully in the birthday euphoria! Indeed, I am thrilled!!! May the next thirty-five birthdays all bring same or more joy and fufillment than this! AMEN!
Saturday, July 23, 2016
My Internet Presence
Yaay, it always feels good to write....and i still wonder why i am not writting as much as i should. I should really consider making money from writting oh...Anyways, guess what? I found a long lost friend. Or rather, she found me. Shout out to Moni Sonde-Olatunji! Grin*
So i am neither on facebook, Twitter or instagram....i used to be though but that was in the very beginning until i realized it wasnt of any precise benefit to me. I am a private person and i like my space... But for this attribute,I should have considered full fledged lifestyle blogging like Sisiyemmie☺
Anyways, Moni checked me up on the internet and found my blog but without any contact details. So i decided to use this medium to add at least my email address for anyone else in search of me!☺😃So folks pending my mega bloom...I think it suffices to say that:
I am Omowunmi Aderoba-Adeniyi. I like to write it as Omoaderoba Ayaadeniyi( meaning d child of Aderoba and the wife of Adeniyi)
I attended Fountain School, FGGC Oyo and University of Lagos and i can be reached via: thesire205@gmail.com.😀
Thank you Moni for making me know that i do have an internet presence that needed an upgrade....fingers crossed till my mega bloom....grin*
Blessings!
So i am neither on facebook, Twitter or instagram....i used to be though but that was in the very beginning until i realized it wasnt of any precise benefit to me. I am a private person and i like my space... But for this attribute,I should have considered full fledged lifestyle blogging like Sisiyemmie☺
Anyways, Moni checked me up on the internet and found my blog but without any contact details. So i decided to use this medium to add at least my email address for anyone else in search of me!☺😃So folks pending my mega bloom...I think it suffices to say that:
I am Omowunmi Aderoba-Adeniyi. I like to write it as Omoaderoba Ayaadeniyi( meaning d child of Aderoba and the wife of Adeniyi)
I attended Fountain School, FGGC Oyo and University of Lagos and i can be reached via: thesire205@gmail.com.😀
Thank you Moni for making me know that i do have an internet presence that needed an upgrade....fingers crossed till my mega bloom....grin*
Blessings!
Monday, May 9, 2016
The Doctrine of Tithing & others.
It is no gainsaying that many Christian doctrines are being criticised daily by Christians and non-Christians alike. Infact, almost every teaching in the Bible has been criticised or misinterpreted even from the time of our Lord Jesus. Little wonder why people castigate pastors for preaching about some of these doctrines. Buh hey! the gospel must be preached no matter whoose ox is gored. If you cannot preach it, let another who believes in it, do so. Our Job is to be like the Berean Christians and go back home to search the scriptures.(Acts 17:11)
There is indeed a great divide about many issues in Christiandom, e.g Church adminstration,Speaking in tounges, Prophecy, Dressing, Tithes and offerings, Dates and Time, e.t.c but I have learned in my walk not to argue these things..(Titus3:9)
One of my favourite lecturers in school usually says and I quote "Religion is a dogma, u either take it or leave it!"
Are you confused about any of these doctrines? Then, PRAY, ask the Holy Spirit to teach you the right thing to do. Ask him to help you understand and give you an encounter. 2. Read scriptures about the said doctrine. 3. Test and see...(Malachi 3:10).
I remember my disgust as a young Christian when I hear a group speaking in tounges, I felt it wasn't just right and I even had scriptures in support of my reservations but now....I know better...I have tasted and know the power, the refreshment and the answers that come from praying in the spirit..
As for tithing, I won't preach about it too, just try it and see... I personally won't guarantee you immediate returns if you are hoping to hit a jackpot, but I can guarantee you a sense of fufilment, gratitude and joy...Well, that's what I feel when I pay my Tithe, Yeah, I feel so grateful to God not just for the money I have but for the ability to give a fraction of it in Honour and appreciation of the only true God, the giver of all good and perfect gifts and of course because I have given, I am confident of receiving.(Luke6:38)
Today, I am a stay at home mum, yet I have EVERYTHING I NEED. Perhaps, my days of 'working' and constantly tithing speaks for me....Oh taste and See folks!
Shalom!
There is indeed a great divide about many issues in Christiandom, e.g Church adminstration,Speaking in tounges, Prophecy, Dressing, Tithes and offerings, Dates and Time, e.t.c but I have learned in my walk not to argue these things..(Titus3:9)
One of my favourite lecturers in school usually says and I quote "Religion is a dogma, u either take it or leave it!"
Are you confused about any of these doctrines? Then, PRAY, ask the Holy Spirit to teach you the right thing to do. Ask him to help you understand and give you an encounter. 2. Read scriptures about the said doctrine. 3. Test and see...(Malachi 3:10).
I remember my disgust as a young Christian when I hear a group speaking in tounges, I felt it wasn't just right and I even had scriptures in support of my reservations but now....I know better...I have tasted and know the power, the refreshment and the answers that come from praying in the spirit..
As for tithing, I won't preach about it too, just try it and see... I personally won't guarantee you immediate returns if you are hoping to hit a jackpot, but I can guarantee you a sense of fufilment, gratitude and joy...Well, that's what I feel when I pay my Tithe, Yeah, I feel so grateful to God not just for the money I have but for the ability to give a fraction of it in Honour and appreciation of the only true God, the giver of all good and perfect gifts and of course because I have given, I am confident of receiving.(Luke6:38)
Today, I am a stay at home mum, yet I have EVERYTHING I NEED. Perhaps, my days of 'working' and constantly tithing speaks for me....Oh taste and See folks!
Shalom!
Thursday, March 10, 2016
On being a Full Time Mummy
God be Praised, I am a Mummy, a Full time Mummy, a Stay at Home Mum(SAHM)! I am so much of a Mummy that I try to remind myself always that I am first a wife to the most awesome husband in the Whole Wide World*grin*. So what do I do apart from changing diapers, feeding,playing with my baby and household chores???? I am always on the Internet! Don't know what I will do without my phone really! Google has been my surest companion! If I see a dot on my baby, I ask Google to confirm what it is! As Internet savy as I can be I still don't find all my baby questions answered especially naija baby questions! Perhaps I should start a typical naija baby blog because even Mamalette has plenty oyinbo things....
All that aside, I must say it's not so easy being a 24/7 mum, I do crave for breaks very much but my darling daughter wants her Mummy 24/7. Sometimes, I am frustrated, sometimes I am sick and sometimes I just want to be alone or do something else without my baby nearby, buh hey I am just stuck! I always console myself with #thistooshallsoonpass#.
Did I hear u say get a creche or nanny, my dear, if I do I would defeat the financial purpose of my being a SAHM.(There are varying purposes and reasons for being a SAHM)Honestly, I absolutely do not regret being a SAHM, Indeed, no one told me the road would be easy but I do know for sure that it's a worthy route. Are u wondering if you should join me on this route? There are a few things to consider, I would mention the top three considerations.1. What is God saying to you? do U think He's got your back? If He got your back, trust me you would feel so at peace with your decison irrespective of your circumstance or what the world thinks! .2. Your Husband..please forget it if you do not have an awesome husband who's with u on this route. 3. Your Personality/character/lifestyle...Today is not a day for emphasis or explanations but please and please, if u are not ready to make lifestyle adjustments, be submisve and conservative, just forget it. If Finance is not a consideration for choosing to be a SAHM, we might be operating on a different pedestral buh for me, my husband and I considered it cheaper to so do. Let me also add that the decision to being a full time mommy shouldn't be borne out of laziness because it's a lot of work especially without a nanny or daycare! Indeed, it is real work!
At the moment my world revolves round my baby and I am doing my best to enjoying it while it last. Soon she wouldn't want mommy around her all the time and I would bask myself in the memories of today... Cheers to all Mummies!
All that aside, I must say it's not so easy being a 24/7 mum, I do crave for breaks very much but my darling daughter wants her Mummy 24/7. Sometimes, I am frustrated, sometimes I am sick and sometimes I just want to be alone or do something else without my baby nearby, buh hey I am just stuck! I always console myself with #thistooshallsoonpass#.
Did I hear u say get a creche or nanny, my dear, if I do I would defeat the financial purpose of my being a SAHM.(There are varying purposes and reasons for being a SAHM)Honestly, I absolutely do not regret being a SAHM, Indeed, no one told me the road would be easy but I do know for sure that it's a worthy route. Are u wondering if you should join me on this route? There are a few things to consider, I would mention the top three considerations.1. What is God saying to you? do U think He's got your back? If He got your back, trust me you would feel so at peace with your decison irrespective of your circumstance or what the world thinks! .2. Your Husband..please forget it if you do not have an awesome husband who's with u on this route. 3. Your Personality/character/lifestyle...Today is not a day for emphasis or explanations but please and please, if u are not ready to make lifestyle adjustments, be submisve and conservative, just forget it. If Finance is not a consideration for choosing to be a SAHM, we might be operating on a different pedestral buh for me, my husband and I considered it cheaper to so do. Let me also add that the decision to being a full time mommy shouldn't be borne out of laziness because it's a lot of work especially without a nanny or daycare! Indeed, it is real work!
At the moment my world revolves round my baby and I am doing my best to enjoying it while it last. Soon she wouldn't want mommy around her all the time and I would bask myself in the memories of today... Cheers to all Mummies!
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