Letter to my 30 year old unmarried Sister

Dear Sister,
Today, I smile as I remember when I turned 30, the events that preceeded it and the events that followed... If you are any bit like me, you may have started consoling yourself with "truths" like: ^Marriage is not worth rushing into, ^Sex before Marriage is worth nothing, ^'Late' marriage is  beneficial and so on. I must tell u they are true words so really believe them and not just take them as mere consolation points.
Permit me,my dear sister, to retrospectively share some more truths with you in this letter.
First, I know you know, but I want you to really know and believe that we all have different times and seasons. Though the orange and tomato seed be planted on the same day, they wont produce fruit on the same day thus comparing yourself with ANYBODY is pointless!
Second, I want you to know and really really believe scriptures especially Jeremiah 29 v 11. He indeed knows the plans He has for u and trust me, they are GOOD! Don't miss them by being wise in your own eyes. See Proverbs 3 v 5-6.
Third, Know that without a relationship with God, WAITING is never fun; be it waiting for a bus,admission,marriage,a child or  whatever! Yet, Sometimes, the Lord wants us to wait in order that we learn patience and attain maturity required for the next phase. So, while you wait,Love the Lord,Serve him and Trust Him like never before. Isiah 26 v 3 says: He'll keep in perfect peace, he whoose mind is stayed on him. oh! how can I express the peace the Lord gives amidst a storm... I enjoyed this premarital peace at some point and I really wish you enjoy same!
Fourthly, Know that your folks do care. Some may not be as encouraging or as quiet as you desire but they do care. So even though they seemingly always remind you of your marital status, do comparisms and even insult you, don't take offence, just love them right back!☺😍
Finally, Do the needful! You cannot expect your spouse to find you when u are constantly indoors.Brighten up girl! Mix up, be friendly,be courteous, be humble,be kind... Attend empowering events,weddings, birthdays and church programmes. But, do so, not in a desperate attempt to finding a man but to gain knowledge, aerate and have fun! You can't afford to overdo any of these things.Do all in moderation. Behold, the honest truth is that good guys refrain from girls that are always at all parties and girls that are heavily madeup...
I can understand that you  work round the clock and at weekends you only want to rest but hey! you just have to step out!
And of course you need to step out spiritually too, You need to step out of your spiritual comfort zone! if you have never fasted about your spouse before, u should do so,if u havent been at a vigil or gone to a moutain top to pray, try it, sow seeds for your marriage girl! Life is a battle and forces are real so sometimes you need to fight for your marriage. Generational curses, 'Ogun amubo' , Ogo de-emi pin, Spiritual husband etc are some things I learnt of when I stepped out of my spiritual comfort zone...Did I really believe that I had any of such issues? NO! Yet still, for whatever it was worth. I fought the fight against them.(I hope you can pray in tounges oh).
After all said and done, go on and enjoy your single life girl. As in,enjoy it whilst it lasts; 'cos girl! sometimes I miss being single! For instance, it's not so much fun being confined to the nursing mothers section and trying to console your crying baby when quality  praise and worship is going on...smh..But hey! I'm not complaining oh! Rather, I am full of gratitude to God...See me na, after my 30th birthday I was 'dumped' LOL but today @ 35, I am HAPPILY married with TWO beautiful kids!
Indeed, I have tasted and know God's faithfulness in my marriage and I am confident that he is working out the best in other areas of my life too. Thats why the chorus of Ebenezer Obey's song, "Aimasiko" is my ringtone 😅😅. Pls lets sing it together as I end this 'epistle'.
   "Hale hale o le hale mo mi rara
     mo 'la'la feyinti mo l'Oluwa
     Oro mi owo Oluwa lowa!" hehehe! You should learn the entire song if you dont know it already. Meanwhile, I bluetooth the dimension of marital grace and mercy I have enjoyed to you too dear. RECEIVE!

Thirty-Five & Thrilled!

I'm not sure that "thrilled" is the most apt word for how happy, fufilled and grateful I am as I clock 35 in 10days!
For once, the contemporary phrase "Birthday Loading..." makes sense to me because I am so excited about this birthday! As usual, I do not have plans for a party or anything special but for some reason i am just thrilled about my 35th birthday!
Flash back to my 30th birthday and the events that followed...who would have said that by 35, I will be HAPPILY MARRIED with TWO kids! Only God! Only Him knows the end from the beginning! Chai! I can only imagine how God in heaven would have felt whilst I worried...Indeed, His plans for us are good! Of a truth, though weeping endures all night, joy comes in the morning! Baba God, I thank you ohhh! Today, I look back and can confidently say to any mature single lady: "Trust God and Worry Not, The Lord makes all things beautiful in His Time"! I should post my learnings for Mature Single Ladies after this..
Meanwhile, let me bask  gratefully and joyfully in the birthday euphoria! Indeed, I am thrilled!!! May the next thirty-five birthdays all bring same or more joy and fufillment than this! AMEN!